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Anonymous asked: Ugh I also wish people would stop assuming all rape and abuse against bi women came from their male partners. I was abused and coerced pretty heavily in a relationship I had with a female partner, it feels really dismissive when people assume it's only men who hurt bi women.
It makes my blood boil sometimes really, I’m also glad you got out of that relationship anon. I mean it’s fair enough to assume that cis white men are going to make up a good chunk of the stats, they make up the big chuncks of every other set of rape stats, but the stats of bi women show that the violence is across the board, it is not just a “het-partnered” thing.
Other than trying to explain away the stats with the stereotype that bi women are destined to be with men and that men are more violent than women etc, if that were true then stats for bi women would be closely matched to straight women’s (after all, they are “more in contact with men, right?”), but the figures for bisexuals are twice as high as straight women. And of course there’s the “not our problem” element of this assumption, where biphobes not only don’t want to deal with the fact that women within the community can be just as abusive and play into rape culture as well, but also assert that this is a problem that the community is not responsible for it so other people have to solve it.
I think the main problem is that people think these stats happen because of bi women are attracted to men, when the inconvienient truth is bi women are abused because they are bi women.
And a lot of these stats don’t even include female aggressors. Like anon, my abuser was female as well and I’m sick of this erasure.
Aren’t there statistics somewhere that show that female/female relationships actually have the highest rates of sexual assault (including rape) and abuse out of all the possible gender combinations? I don’t have these statistics to hand, or any way to find them, unfortunately, but I’ve definitely seen them. They also show that male/male relationships have the lowest rates of sexual assault and abuse, with opposite sex relationships somewhere in the middle.
Actually that’s not the case, at least not with the stats in the link to my original post which is a nationwide study which is pretty comprehensive. Some studies indicate that, when it comes to inter-partner abuse, male/male relationships on average rank around the same level as the stats for straight women. Bi women however top the chart as the most abused by domestic violence from all genders it seems.